sad bird in snow: Oh, that's really nice... sad bird in snow: Honestly I can't see Nero being against it sad bird in snow: And that'd make us family, too, I suppose, since I'm marrying in
sad bird in snow: Honestly, my family from home was perhaps sad bird in snow: Not great at being a family sad bird in snow: So I've sort of been making it up as I go along with avante, but I think it's sort of... nice to have a family that you choose, where you have each others' backs and support each other sad bird in snow: It seems like that's also just the default where Cardinal comes from, so maybe it might be worth talking to them
Morning☆Glory: Yeah, I talked to Cardinal about b'ashes and stuff ages ago. Morning☆Glory: That's always been something I want, and I do really like and get along with all of them, and we've done a lot for each other, so I think it would make me really happy, but... Morning☆Glory: I don't know, it seems weirder when they're actual family. Like I'd be intruding. Morning☆Glory: I have no idea at all how to be part of a family. Nero talked to me some about how some of it is seeing the family resemblance in each other, and that sort of thing, which I'm obviously not part of... And if something goes weird, I wouldn't want them to feel obligated to me.
Morning☆Glory: I also wouldn't be helping the incest situation. Clearly.
sad bird in snow: Well, it's sort of... sad bird in snow: well, I suppose it's also like marrying in, in a way. Where it's not as if you were raised together? sad bird in snow: and also I guess we're just sort of barreling through that issue. Apparently.
sad bird in snow: I don't think... there's any real one way to be part of a family sad bird in snow: And it seems like you get along really well with all of them, so it's not like you're intruding sad bird in snow: Also they're all already weird. You cannot make it worse.
Morning☆Glory: They are, that's true. Morning☆Glory: And I guess it's kind of like that. I'm not marrying anyone, though. Would it be like Raven adopting me? Everyone generally adopting me...? Morning☆Glory: Maybe I should ask Cardinal how the joining part usually works for them...
sad bird in snow: It does seem kind of like everyone collectively adopting you... sad bird in snow: But I think it's true that Cardinal would be a good resource sad bird in snow: Also, I'm really happy for you
Morning☆Glory: Thank you Morning☆Glory: I'm not sure I can totally be happy about it yet.. Morning☆Glory: I guess it's so much what I want that it seems too good to be true until it actually happens. Morning☆Glory: If I even think about it too hard I get scared I'm going to mess it up somehow. Morning☆Glory: Though I am happy that Raven thinks enough of me to even suggest it.
sad bird in snow: I'm not sure there's a way you can mess it up... sad bird in snow: I mean, I was worried about telling Nero I was interested in him because I was worried it would ruin the family he wanted, but instead it was nice sad bird in snow: I guess the idea of family is... even if you argue, it's a bond that runs deeper than nearly all disagreements sad bird in snow: My brother hated me, but he was still my brother, and I still cared about him
sad bird in snow: Maybe then... well, just spending more type together and finding ways to rely on each other sad bird in snow: That'll start to build it, won't it? sad bird in snow: It seems like you already have that relationship with Raven for sure
Morning☆Glory: Yeah. Morning☆Glory: Raven for sure. Morning☆Glory: Maybe I'm just afraid that if I push on the family thing too fast, it'll be too weird for the others, and it won't be the same.
sad bird in snow: Well, on the other hand, I don't think avante would have gotten into the family sort of feeling if Nero hadn't pushed for it in the first place?
Morning☆Glory: That's a good point, I guess. Morning☆Glory: And Nero didn't even know about the family thing, but he was still telling me that he didn't know what any of them would do without me there to make them be a little less dumb about things. Morning☆Glory: So maybe you could argue that I'd help them out...
sad bird in snow: I like the idea of family being family just because they are and not needing to feel useful sad bird in snow: But it is nice to have a niche, in a way.
sad bird in snow: I mean, everyone I call family here isn't actually family sad bird in snow: except I guess I am literally marrying Nero now. sad bird in snow: But if someone's of the mind to be broader about their definition of family, then it shouldn't matter.
Morning☆Glory: I guess that's the part I have trouble getting my head around. Morning☆Glory: How do you decide when someone's family or not? Morning☆Glory: Is it just... wanting them to be? Morning☆Glory: What if they don't want me to?
sad bird in snow: I have no idea when you decide sad bird in snow: some days you just wake up and you have three cute little brothers, none of whom are on the same unit or look remotely like each other but you'd kill for all of them?
sad bird in snow: All right maybe that's just me sad bird in snow: But, I don't know, sometimes you spend enough time around people and you realize your relationships are just taking on that tone sad bird in snow: Or sometimes you're Nero and you decide This Is Just Your Family Now and doggedly make it work until it does sad bird in snow: Or you get adopted, and then it's really obvious.
sad bird in snow: So good thing that seems like what Raven's doing sad bird in snow: Also admittedly sad bird in snow: when you've had sex involving at least two of them sad bird in snow: that's probably a pretty strong indicator that they like you?
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sad bird in snow: Honestly I can't see Nero being against it
sad bird in snow: And that'd make us family, too, I suppose, since I'm marrying in
sad bird in snow: Honestly, my family from home was perhaps
sad bird in snow: Not great at being a family
sad bird in snow: So I've sort of been making it up as I go along with avante, but I think it's sort of... nice to have a family that you choose, where you have each others' backs and support each other
sad bird in snow: It seems like that's also just the default where Cardinal comes from, so maybe it might be worth talking to them
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Morning☆Glory: That's always been something I want, and I do really like and get along with all of them, and we've done a lot for each other, so I think it would make me really happy, but...
Morning☆Glory: I don't know, it seems weirder when they're actual family. Like I'd be intruding.
Morning☆Glory: I have no idea at all how to be part of a family. Nero talked to me some about how some of it is seeing the family resemblance in each other, and that sort of thing, which I'm obviously not part of... And if something goes weird, I wouldn't want them to feel obligated to me.
Morning☆Glory: I also wouldn't be helping the incest situation. Clearly.
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sad bird in snow: well, I suppose it's also like marrying in, in a way. Where it's not as if you were raised together?
sad bird in snow: and also I guess we're just sort of barreling through that issue. Apparently.
sad bird in snow: I don't think... there's any real one way to be part of a family
sad bird in snow: And it seems like you get along really well with all of them, so it's not like you're intruding
sad bird in snow: Also they're all already weird. You cannot make it worse.
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Morning☆Glory: And I guess it's kind of like that. I'm not marrying anyone, though. Would it be like Raven adopting me? Everyone generally adopting me...?
Morning☆Glory: Maybe I should ask Cardinal how the joining part usually works for them...
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sad bird in snow: But I think it's true that Cardinal would be a good resource
sad bird in snow: Also, I'm really happy for you
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Morning☆Glory: I'm not sure I can totally be happy about it yet..
Morning☆Glory: I guess it's so much what I want that it seems too good to be true until it actually happens.
Morning☆Glory: If I even think about it too hard I get scared I'm going to mess it up somehow.
Morning☆Glory: Though I am happy that Raven thinks enough of me to even suggest it.
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sad bird in snow: I mean, I was worried about telling Nero I was interested in him because I was worried it would ruin the family he wanted, but instead it was nice
sad bird in snow: I guess the idea of family is... even if you argue, it's a bond that runs deeper than nearly all disagreements
sad bird in snow: My brother hated me, but he was still my brother, and I still cared about him
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Morning☆Glory: That's the part I'm worried about
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sad bird in snow: That'll start to build it, won't it?
sad bird in snow: It seems like you already have that relationship with Raven for sure
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Morning☆Glory: Raven for sure.
Morning☆Glory: Maybe I'm just afraid that if I push on the family thing too fast, it'll be too weird for the others, and it won't be the same.
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Morning☆Glory: And Nero didn't even know about the family thing, but he was still telling me that he didn't know what any of them would do without me there to make them be a little less dumb about things.
Morning☆Glory: So maybe you could argue that I'd help them out...
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sad bird in snow: While still being able to speak the same language
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Morning☆Glory: It is something good about being with them, either way.
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sad bird in snow: But it is nice to have a niche, in a way.
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Morning☆Glory: But I'm NOT actually family, so...
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sad bird in snow: except I guess I am literally marrying Nero now.
sad bird in snow: But if someone's of the mind to be broader about their definition of family, then it shouldn't matter.
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Morning☆Glory: How do you decide when someone's family or not?
Morning☆Glory: Is it just... wanting them to be?
Morning☆Glory: What if they don't want me to?
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sad bird in snow: some days you just wake up and you have three cute little brothers, none of whom are on the same unit or look remotely like each other but you'd kill for all of them?
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sad bird in snow: But, I don't know, sometimes you spend enough time around people and you realize your relationships are just taking on that tone
sad bird in snow: Or sometimes you're Nero and you decide This Is Just Your Family Now and doggedly make it work until it does
sad bird in snow: Or you get adopted, and then it's really obvious.
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sad bird in snow: Also admittedly
sad bird in snow: when you've had sex involving at least two of them
sad bird in snow: that's probably a pretty strong indicator that they like you?
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